Date 30 and 31- Not a holiday romance

With the holidays, snowstorm, and crazy schedule I have still managed to continue dating but have lacked on the blogging component. I always feel like I need to take a day or so to reflect about the date before I blog to ensure I am fair to the bachelor.

Date 30- A new bachelor, but from the same tree as SLOW and STEADY

Recently it has taken me more time than usual to find the time to schedule dates with new bachelors. Date 30 faced the same scheduling issue but we finally got together before Christmas for coffee at Starbucks. ( Another coffee date for the girl who doesn't like coffee/Starbucks). Honestly, Date 30 is a super nice guy and we held good conversation throughout the date. Topics included

• OSU athletics (more of a mutual hatred for OU)
• Health care reform bill (he works in politics and is very republican...i am not)
• Tiger Woods and his 17 girlfriends (if that is what you call them)
• Favorite Movie comparison...

As you can tell, most of these topics are current events or standard first date conversations. Although Date 30 never said anything wrong, he always seemed to agree with me even though I could tell he felt differently. Many of you know me and know I am not afraid of a conflict or disagreement but this bachelor must be because he pretty much rolled over and let me win.

Another interesting detail about Date 30 was that he wanted to schedule the next date right away. A way to guilt you into the next one....! with the holiday I was able to deflect till later on but I found he is pretty persistent.

Lets just say nice guy but I'm not interested....

Date 31- To come clean or not??? That is the question

Slow and Steady and I had already scheduled another date before the realization that he is still "looking." Considering it is December we took advantage of the OKC Downtown in December activities and went ice skating. Now, due to the realization discussed in the last post, I decided to not get him a xmas present b/c I didn't think we were there. Well he walked in my front door with one for me. (Gift card to an ice cream placed we had been to...cute but nothing special).

So....backup plan went into place. I had cookie dough in the fridge and had him help me make sugar cookies and then sent the batch home with him. Cute....yes I know. It is actually a REALLY fun date activity. Highly recommend it :)

Now.....things are comfortable with this bachelor and I wasn't in the mood to rock the boat right before Christmas...so I decided to not bring up the whole internet dating thing. Why cause an issue where it really doesn't matter. Are we seriously dating...NO. But I enjoy his company and want to keep him as a friend. I think it is better to let this one play out naturally...as I am sure it will.

So lesson learned: I am looking for someone who challenges me.....not lets me always win.

Two more dates are on the books but I still need your help setting me up! Keep the suggestions coming!

No longer feeling guilty..but a little hit on my ego

If you have been keeping up with my post you will know that the past few months I have been been filled with guilt because I felt terrible that one of the bachelors that I have been dating was not aware of the 52 in 52 program and /or blog.

I AM NOW GUILT FREE!!!! Many of you may be thinking that I came clean with the fella, but that is not the case!

Let me start from the beginning:

If you remember I met this guy on an online dating website. At first I was sure that it would lead to nothing, so I chose to leave my little dating adventure out of conversation. One thing lead to another and we have been what my friends keep calling "dating" for a few months now. (all the while I have continued to rack up the dates with other bachelors). Recently I have posted about how I felt that this guy may be getting more into this that I originally planned and that the guilt of 52 in 52 started to consume me. (see date 29 post for more details).

Since I had such great luck finding dates on this website, I have recommended it to many friends. One (who will remain nameless) just recently signed on and was overwhelmed with messages (as she should be b/c she is AMAZING). Tonight she was so overwhelmed that I offered to filter through her messages and delete out all of the "junk". To my surprise the first message I came across was from THE BOY THAT I AM DATING!!!!!

I might have died laughing at the ironic nature of this considering that I had been guilt strucken for so long thinking he had the hots for me when all along it appears he has "keep his options open." I know I have no room to be mad or hurt considering my situation but for some reason it was a small blow to my ego while at the same time quite a relief!

NOW...the questions remains, do I bring it up to him as a way to come clean on the 52 in 52....or just let it slide? Suggestions?

Next Date Scheduled

A new bachelor is scheduled for this week.....!!! If you have ANY potential bachelors, PLEASE send them my way!

Date 29- Christmas Time is Upon us

For those of you that live in the Oklahoma area, you all know the best place to go look at Christmas lights! (No...not the Chesapeake Energy Campus although those are impressive) yes..I am referring to the Festival of Lights in Chickasha, Oklahoma!

Last night my date and I walked hand in hand through the beautiful display of lights while sipping on our hot chocolate. Sounds wonderful doesn't it! Well although it was pretty darn close it was spitting freezing rain last night so that put a damper on things! Also, my date had hoping to ride in the horse drawn carriage together but they were not operating last night. Now for him this was a let down but for MJ it was a relief! Let me tell you why:

First off, I always feel like all you can smell when you ride behind a horse is the horse's poop! Is that not true!! I'm not sure how romantic I can be in the midst of that horrific smell. Also, that screams DATING to me. Although I will admit to "dating" this guy I think actually doing activities that could be labeled that way may freak me out a bit. (It could be the guilt of this whole social experiment..who knows). So that being said, for any potential bachelors please don't ask me out for a carriage ride. Not my cup of tea!

I could go on and on about my guilty conscience right now but you all know the story. MJ dates numerous bachelors, they don't know about the blog and now she may like one of them. To tell or not......this is the first time I have felt a movie plot coming along!

On a positive note...a new bachelor this weekend! But PLEASE continue to dig into your friends to find me dates 31-52!!! Who knows..your guy could be the guy for me !

Keep reading, b/c I will keep dating!

Took a break

Just to keep you all in the loop,,,,I went to NYC this past week and have not kept up with the blog while I was gone!! Will post about Date 29 tomorrow!

MJ

26,27,28- I guess they have to count!

Date 26- Ice cream!

Date 27- Drinks!

Date 28- Mexican!

All with bachelors I have already gone out with...but each date a different guy! Ok...here is more detail.

Date 26- Slow and Steady took MJ for ice cream

This was a spur of the moment date. I received a text message from S&S asking how my evening was going and i responded with "i am debating if i want to go get ice cream". Next thing I know, he has shown up at more door ready to take me out for a delicious treat! (you could say he fell right into my trap). After ice cream, I did invite this bachelor into my apartment (it was actually semi clean). We hung out and watched TV, which was limited due to my lack of cable. It felt normal to be sitting on my couch watching Conan with this guy. But he still doesn't know about the blog and my last name. SO obviously there is still quite a bit of ground to cover.

Date 27- One of the originals met MJ for a drink

I was in Kansas City for a wedding and had the opportunity to connect back up with Date #3. If you don't remember this guy, you may take a trip down blog memory lane and go back and review. It was great to see him again but the hard part is that the chemistry is still there but he lives there(not in OKC). I guess sometimes you just have it with some people even if it is the right timing or not. We had a good time catching up and shared quite a few laughs! I may always wonder if this could of been something if we lived in the same town, but I guess you can't worry about that.

Date 28- I hate when people order fajitas!

This date was a long time in the making. I was excited to meet back up with this bachelor, other wise known as the guy who took me to Jerry Seinfeld. It was amazing how much deeper our conversations went this time. I guess it is hard to discuss serious topics after a comedy show. Now this is someone I have known a long time, but during this date I realized that someone can know you but they don't necessary know your past and why you are the way you are unless you share that with them. It was fun to both share and learn about one another even though I already knew him.

Something that makes me laugh is during our first date, this bachelor compared wanting a girlfriend to wanting an i-phone. "It would be cool to have but my phone works just fine."Well.....he has an i-phone now! I laughed because he says he doesn't know what to do with it and feels the same way about a girlfriend. :)

Due to some scheduling issues and other problems, I had to postpone two other dates that were scheduled for this week! Look for those dates to be rescheduled in the near future!

Keep reading, because you know I will keep dating!

Date 25- Its been a while

Date 25 took a long time to get on the books. The bachelor was actually a friend from the high school days who I have not seen since high school, so it has been awhile. We had been trying to get together for awhile, but every time I head back to Kansas I always seem to jam pack my weekends and our schedules always conflicts.

Well after my Jayhawks lost to the Sooners last week, we decided to drink our sadness away and meet for a drink at a local bar in Wichita. It was great to see him again and catch up on the last eight years. Now that I think about it, I don't know that I really knew all that much about him back in high school. Its funny now thinking about all the people you "know" from your past. What do you really "know" about them anymore. People change!

I actually think going on a date with someone you "know" is more nerve racking that a blind date. There is this sense of pressure when you are suppose to have some base level knowledge about someone. If you agree to a date with someone you kinda know, you are unknowingly stating that you are interested, even if you know it or not. I think this pressure may have played a role in this dating experience but it was hard to tell in this laid back environment.

It was great to see Bachelor 25 again and if we can make our schedules work again, maybe we can do it again.

Ok friends......one date till half way point! keep the recommendations coming, you all seem to be just spectators in this adventure and I need you to start playing a more active roll! FIND ME MORE DATES! :)

Happy dating!